Have you ever heard the saying, “Bad company corrupts good character”? What exactly is “bad company”, this definition is very subjective. However, a good indicator is how you feel in the relationship or friendship. Do you feel tired, angry, resentful, does your blue sky always turn gray when they are around? Chances are you have that person in mind as you continue to read this article. You are not alone, we all have toxic people in our lives that give us an overall feeling of negativity.
Toxic people are easy to recognize. They are unhappy, insecure, and mask this with arrogance. You cannot change toxic behavior, it must come from within. A recent article by Psychology Today discussed Toxicity in relationships, and the importance of a NUTRIC person in your life. NUTRIC people are the opposite of toxic. They provide support, help nourish your growth, and provide support and development.
Nutric people are also easy to recognize. They will encourage you when you have self-doubt, support you when you need assistance, asking nothing in return. They are happy more often than not. They often have a smile on their face. Their happiness is contagious, leaving you energized, motivated, and more self-confident. The personal characteristics of Nutric people read like an acronym of the word itself.
NUTRIC people are:
1- Nurturing. They are supportive and encouraging. They are motivating but not demanding. They seem to truly want you to be happy and successful.
2- Understanding. They seem to understand you. They are perspective-takers able to understand your point of view on most things. When they disagree, they present their point of view without insulting your perspective.
3- Trustworthy. You can trust them without any fear of betrayal.
4- Reliable. Reliability is the key to trust. They act and think in a pattern that is usually predictable and this puts you at ease.
5- Inspiring. They evidence integrity and ethics. They seem to follow a moral compass and inspire growth.
6-Confident. They are confident in themselves and their confidence is contagious. Studies on interpersonal attraction show that self-confidence is a key factor in attraction. Do not confuse confidence with narcissism and arrogance, as these two traits are characteristic of toxic people.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/when-disaster-strikes-inside-disaster-psychology/201911/how-pull-away-toxic-people-and-who
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